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Light In The Dark
* Gentle warning - themes of su*cide *
✨ Hello, I'm Fran, Your NLP & Business Coach. In this episode, I'm interviewing Wael Saeed to discuss mindset and mental health.
Meet Wael, The Mental Health, Mindset & Resilience Coach empowering people to train their minds.
His mission is for people to see the bright side in the darkness, and his vision is a world where more people adopt a growth mindset, learn from adversity, and improve overall mental health.
Just imagine what our world would look like with that type of mindset!
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Hello and welcome to the Melancholy Coaching Outcom. I'm your host and NLP coach. Join me as I interview inspiring business owners and self-improvement seekers about their experiences whilst delving into personal development, motivation and strategies for overcoming challenges. Let's ignite our creative potential together. Hello and welcome to Melancholy Coaching Podcast. I'm Fran, your NLP coach, and I'm pleased to introduce a motivational guest, a mental health, mindset and resilience coach living and working in UAE. His mission is to empower people to train their minds to see the bright side in the darkness. His vision is a world where people adopt a growth mindset, learn from adversity, and improve overall mental health. Just imagine what our world would look like with that type of mindset. Why elector?
Wael:Welcome. I want to thank you for this humble introduction for me. I'm so happy that I'm with you today in that podcast. I want to thank you for accepting my invitation also. It's a very good way or a very um opportunity in order to share my own thoughts and my own understanding about life doing your broadcast, to be to be honest, especially the mission and the purpose behind it as a certified life coach. I want to thank you for this.
Fran:You're very welcome. You're very welcome. So for full transparency for anybody listening, Wyle and I actually connected online. We don't know each other in person, and we're in two different countries as well, because I'm based in England in the United Kingdom, and you're not. So, you know, we've we're connecting across the internet, which is a wonderful thing to bring coaches together, isn't it? And people together so that they can hear the message that you've got. So I've got a couple of questions for you, and we'll just have a little chat around that if that's okay, because I'm I'm a curious little being. So I've got a couple of questions just that I'm fascinated about. So I know that you graduated from Jay Shetty Certification School. So when did you actually decide to specialize in mental health, mindset, and resilience?
Wael:Yeah, I want to thank you for that question, to be honest. My journey started, you can say, before the school, a long time back. Since I was teenager in Egypt. I never forget that day, it was my turning boy in day. It was 25 November 2013. And it was a very dark time before that date for me. I was smoking, I was taking drugs, drinking alcohol, I was in a very dark place that time. I was 22 or 23. Yeah.
Fran:Can I just can I just say that I I believe that you were probably self-soothing. So if you were in a very dark place to take substances and things like that, you you're trying to soothe yourself, you're trying to help yourself, aren't you? It's just not a positive, but a generally positive way of going about it that will that will help you. So there's no judgment for that at all.
Wael:Yeah, I want to thank you for this. Uh thank you for that safe space that I that that I feel with you right now. Yeah. And then I decided in that day, I I was I was so depressed, I had depression and suicidal thoughts, and in that day, that was the day that I was decided to end my life, to be honest, and commit a suicide. I decided the date and time and location, even that I would go to that place and I will do this action. But before in doing this, it was 8 p.m. at evening time, something like this. I remember the time also. And you know that inner voice that came to your mind? I don't know what is the voice, that the voice of God, voice of angel, voice of inner conscious. I I don't know what it is, and was asking me this question. Well, are you going to end which life exactly? The life, the dark life that you're living in, drugs, alcohol, this kind of friends, all this kind of stuff, or the soul that God gave it to you, this this pure soul, the soul itself. You know what? That was a very deep question for me in that day. It was a turning point. And then I answered myself without any hesitation. No, I don't want to end this soul, this this beautiful soul. But I want to really end this this bad life. I don't like this life. It was so dark for me. From that day, it was my turning point answering this question, and I didn't commit the the suicide. And in that day, I left my job. I I I decided to quit my job. And since it was my own in my room, I I was sitting with my in my room for about 25 days, something like this, just trying to wake up, you know, try to quit smoking, drugs, alcohol, and reduce all this kind of poison that came to my to my body physically, and affect my mental health and my emotional health also, and also my people around me. And from that day, I decided to try to turn everything. For example, I was trying to stop smoking and reduce and replace it by something positive like running. I started to have my own notes. And this note I decided in two parts: the positive part of the positive habits and negative habits. I started to write down in a very blank page, you know, a paper. I replaced smoking with running. I replaced praying. Sorry, I replaced alcohol with brain. I was replacing negative things by positive things. I started by very small things. And I started to feel the abusive feeding inside me. And from that day on, at time I said, No and I I I test the beautiful life. It was a beautiful test. Seemed like God gave you like a beautiful test, a beautiful honey. Just test it, my friend. What what do you think about that test? It's a beautiful want to continue or get back. No, no, no. I want to, I don't want to get back. I want to continue with that life. And that was my my turning point in that day. My journey was depression, and how can I heal myself after God wills from depression and OCD and other stuff internally. And then 2021, I started to do that journey for about 11 years internally. And then when I decided to be a life coach and read about JGT and his school and all this kind of stuff, my main purpose in life, I want to study coaching in JCT school because I want to be a certified life coach and help people who went through what I went through in my life. And from here, I found out God, I believe in God, but God created this life for a purpose and also created you for a purpose. And God, about from this life, is life of challenges. God created this life for you, not against you, my friend. So even the life of challenges in this life is also for you, not against you. But you are the one who can who can choose and see the life of challenge from different perspectives. From here, I start my journey of healing with diversion as a life mental challenge. Yes.
Fran:Because when you're in that darkness, you you can believe that there are no choices, this is just the way it is. There is no way out of this. And that inner voice that you heard, that could have been an inner critic, that could have been, you know, your your inner dialogue with God or you know, other deities that people believe in. There is no judgment for any of this, and those intrusive thoughts, there's no judgment for that either. But it's knowing that you have a choice, you do have a choice. Yeah, it's a very powerful message. So then you did your certification through the Jay Shetty school, so you've decided to focus on mindset and resilience. So it's kind of you know, within the mental health field, but on mindset and resilience. And this, I feel that this is part of your own journey because quite often with these journeys that we go through in life, we just need to be a few steps ahead of somebody to hold our hand out and say, Look, you can do this too. This is completely possible. I'm living proof, and you can do it as well. And I think that that's what you're doing, isn't it? You're you're showing people that there is a light through that darkness. Um and they can achieve it too.
Wael:Yeah. I remember that day when I in a ceremony for graduation before one day, it was my supervisor, and I was I was crying. I was telling myself that what if if you you did commit the suicide 10 years back, you will not be here in this in this school and be a certified coach now. Yeah, so I worked so hard after God's will to transform that suicidal boy, teenager, into a certified coach and help people like me after 10 years. That was that was my greatest achievement ever in my life. That I didn't give up. Yeah, if anybody thank you for sharing. Thank you for sharing it. Yeah, yeah. So if anybody lists to me right now, if you are doing if you're going through something at least 10% similar, only 10% similar for what I'm uh I I want to say in my life, no man, you have the choice to change if you want. Yeah, yeah.
Fran:Yeah, and it's it's knowing that that is available. Because I've gone through a lot of depression as well. Had it, I've been challenged with it for a lot of my life. And I didn't realize that I had a very fixed mindset. I didn't even know that there were other mindsets. I didn't know, I just didn't know that there were other possibilities and that I could make choices. So it's just this this information that may seem very simple, but it's life-changing when you completely accept it that you can make a choice. It is a very dark place, but you can make a choice. There is a light. Yeah, I love that. So thank you for sharing. What I would like to ask you next is what are the first steps that you consider, just in your opinion as a coach, what are the first steps that someone can take today to begin seeing the bright side in dark times?
Wael:Well, I will give an example from my depression. When I was fighting with depression, that meant an inner war with myself, I was I was hating depression so much. But when I started sitting with myself and listened to the vision and listened to the information behind my depression, I found out it's so useful for me. How did I do this? Whatever that your life challenge that you're going through in your life, whatever, whatever it is physically, so physical illness, mental illness, emotions, rejection, whatever that you're going through in your life, whatever it is, it's like as a life challenge. For example, division when I was sitting with debris and talking with the vision as a person like me. Even if I have a conversation with the vision, like uh I was calling the vision Mr. Debris. I was sitting with myself in my room like this, you know, like you. I'm talking with you with you face to face as a conversation, like a broadcast. I was saying like this, hello, Mr. Debation, how are you? Yes, I'm good. Well, may you know why that you are here in my life now? And I was saying this, well, there's some reason why that I'm here in your life. For example, that you are not eating well, you're you're smoking too much, you are taking drugs, you are don't have a purpose in your life, you don't have a goal in your life, and have a meaning in your life, so you're not supporting your family. They give me a list of reasons. That's why I'm here in your life mentally, man. So, what do you think about that? So, I want to start to listen to the reason why debris here in my life and the information behind the debris and the need which is not met as a human being, right? I start to see depression from different perspectives. So, why am I hating you like this? You give me information about the life that I don't like, and I start to change step by step. So, if you see the bright side from your own darkness, like depression, for example, whatever it is that it challenges, you can transform depression or the life challenge from mental illness to mental friend, the one who worked for you, not against you, as a human being. The same thing with rejection. I got rejected two times in my life, not two times, you know, about five times I got rejected from five females differently with different minds during my last 10 years. The first the first three times I got in depression, so that's what again. I was so I was so dumb. I'm not sure about the vote, but I was so sad because I'm I'm I'm rejected, I'm not seen, I'm not head, I'm not loved. Why? I'm a man, you know. But the last two times I was so grateful for this for my rejections. You know why? Because I found out rejection, when I see the rejection with different perspectives, see the right time from rejection, found out God closed that door for me because something's better for me in the future. And they thought in the future about this, and now I'm grateful for this.
Fran:So that's that's like you developed a form of optimism as such, you know, rather than being stuck in that place where you were rejected and staying with those with those feelings, you developed an optimism for there's something coming, there's something better coming, you know, there's something else that I'm meant to be doing in my life. You mentioned purpose as well, and this sense of purpose for us as human beings is so important and it can be so lacking from our lives, can't it, and from our minds. I believe that a sense of purpose doesn't necessarily need to be a massive thing, you know, just huge, and you know, we quite often could potentially miss what our actual true purpose is and what we want to embody as our true purpose because we think it's going to be come in and it's going to be singing and dancing and really big, you know. It can literally just be a feeling of that you want to help people, or you want to, I don't know, you want to achieve something in your life through learning, or all of that is a sense of purpose. Yes, isn't it?
Wael:Yes, you're completely right. It's so simple than this. Yeah, but unfortunately, we are how I can say it, but we become like because we're we we're addicted to social media too much these days, social media feeding us by wrong thoughts, a wrong belief. If you don't have purpose that you should die or something like this, that is not like this. You know, your babysit, as you said, maybe it's a very simple thing. If you are a mother or a father, maybe your babies in life only advise your children. That's enough, man. And that's a kind of only to be yes, only to be a good mother, it's a big purpose. A good father is a good purpose. Doing your job well. When you wake up early, it fixes your own. Being a good person, yeah, being a good person, just it. I'm not telling you the best version. No, not best version. Be a good person. The definition of good person or bad person, I know some people maybe can reject that, but be who you are, be who you are as a human being, do things which is not harming yourself mentally, emotionally, and physically, and not harm people around you, somebody. Maybe that will be your own purpose. Maybe when someone sees you doing that good thing, we'll consider it as a as a humble idol for him and start to change, also. Yes, you're gonna fit in all the time.
Fran:I think it's I think it's contextual as well. Sorry, I've got I think it's it's it's contextual as well, and it's how we interpret these things as like a good person. Well, that's not much, is it? But you know, within the context of you actually embodying just being kind and good and what it means to you, what it truly means to you. That's huge. That's a big thing.
Wael:Yes, you're you're you're completely right. But how can you see it in that perspective? Our life is so simple, but sometimes we'll make it so complicated.
Fran:We overcomplicate things, don't we? Yeah, we do. We do overcomplicate things. It was interesting as well that you said that you you said about challenges because challenges are kind of almost within, I don't know about it's whether it's in the perspective of what we feel them, but somebody somebody's challenge may be not quite a challenge to someone else. We can't compare ourselves as human beings. If you feel that you're having a challenge in your life, then then it's important to you, and that is something to work on, isn't it? Yes. Um again, it could be something simple, it could just be that you you want to change careers and you're feeling sad and depressed in the job that you're in. That's a massive challenge for you because it's what what it means to the actual person, isn't it? Mm-hmm that's faced with this challenge. And you also I love it that you gave your depression a name, yes, and spoke to it. That can work as well for our inner critics. So that voice that we hear that tells us that we are no good or we can't do anything, you can give that a name as well. Yes, you know, you can give that voice a silly voice, um, you can turn the volume down on it. You know, there are little techniques that are quite simple but very powerful, and as coaches, we can help to guide people to the right kind of resources and tools that are potentially going to work for them if they implement these things.
Wael:Yes, we are doing good, we call it in coaching as a I learned from school, we call it the bout of self, because you have your inner voice inside you. Sometimes you feel like you're sitting in a room inside you. I believe in the outer world and the inner world. I'm talking about the inner world of you as a human being. Your world of thoughts, feelings, emotions, needs, that is your inner world. Yeah, whatever that you open your eyes, close your eyes, that is your inner world. That's right. The inner voice is talking. You're sitting with your own husband or your own daughter, or whatever your own friends, but when someone asks you, Well, you are not sitting with me, you're sitting with your own thoughts, don't think too much. That is your inner world, man. Yes. So when you're sitting in your inner world and the voices start talking and a conflict between your own thoughts, for example, one voice is saying, Ah, I don't want to go out today with my friends because I want to sleep early, because I want to wake up early, because I want to focus on my job. Okay, that's one voice. The second voice saying, No, get to go out, have some some time and enjoy your time. So these two voices covered by two needs inside as a human being. And you're sitting in the middle, you listen to this voice and this voice. How can you add this these two voices? From here, start the conflict. As you said, you can name the voices. You can name one voice, for example, the growth voice, for example, because I this person, this voice motivate me to grow, is that right? Mentally and physically, and the other voice, which is the funny voice, which is a joyful voice, and talk with them and find some middle ground action, okay, to handle the two voices and not go into conflict between them. Because that is your own needs, man. So, okay, going out with my friends, I can go out with my friends, but I will stay only one hour, for example, and then get back home early. I will sleep early. So now by this action, you cover the boss's needs, for example. I mean, you are the one who can control this. You are the one who can control your own thoughts, your own, you can navigate your own feeling and emotions, but they will not come in one day or another. You need to work yourself more. Give yourself time to listen to yourself. We are afraid to sit in with ourselves and and face our own thoughts and feeding and need inside us. Because sometimes that's remind us by our own burst, our own traumas, our own painful things. But that is the start of healing. Give you time, give yourself time and talk with your own challenges. Because I believe also it's all about your own challenges, it believes about it's all about how you can see your own challenge from different perspectives. Okay, that thing is so important. Because sometimes people saying that I want to be. I learned that from Jordan Beterson, he's a clinical psychologist. I love him so much because I'm studying in, I was studying, I was taking his courses and I was eating his book, I was studying his book. And he was talking about something so interesting. I was saying that in his lecture. When you ask people about happiness, they're saying that I want to be just happy. That is so confusing. What do you mean by just happy? Just happy, what do you mean by just happy? You want to be only having new life? What about other emotions? Other beautiful positive emotion also besides being happy. Also, this other negative emotion is important for you. That is the point. Imagine if you are happy always in your life. You feel bored. I need some sadness also in my life, and I need to have the balance between being happy and being sad. You know the value of joy when you go through some pain in your life. You know the value of food that you have and the lunch that you take when you feel hungry and you feel the test of food. Is that right? Sometimes also you know the value of drinking water when you go through some some thirsty. There's a wisdom behind this. The wisdom behind the two things: the positive emotion, negative emotion. It's so helpful in your life. But sometimes, I don't know, that is the mindset. How can you build that mindset in your life? You know, it depends from person to person. And you said that something so important. It might challenge maybe is different, maybe the same challenge that you're going through, but you you your way of handing your challenge maybe is better than me, or something like this. But that that depends on your own way. How can you see your own challenge and start start step by step to face it in your life?
Fran:Yeah, and it's it's also being able to just appreciate those little moments of joy. So, what does happy mean? You can look at the definition of happy or happiness, still doesn't mean that you actually feel it. But if something makes you smile, that's making you feel happy. Quite often with things to do with mental health and depression and stuff like that, it's it's almost like we can feel like we we're not allowed to feel happy because we've got the label of depressed or sad or going through a big challenge, or we're not allowed to be happy. We are allowed to smile even in through challenges and even in dark times, we're allowed to. Yes, you know, and it's about giving yourself permission, isn't it, to do that? All of this is not easy if you can't sit with the self-awareness, if there's no self-awareness, you know, it has to start with some kind of just a little spark or some something, some kind of thing that that kind of triggers these thoughts and these actions. Like with you, it was just that awareness that you felt very, very sad and contemplated suicidal thoughts, and but then there was a change, you know, that that thing that sort of stepped in. And there's there's no way that any of us can know what's coming. We don't know, do we? So what works for me or what works for you won't necessarily work for somebody else. But it's just it's it's being able to sit with yourself, I think, and just listen because you was able to listen to the voice that you had, and then I don't know, it's it's a it's a difficult one to describe, isn't it? Really? You know, so somebody that's feeling like they're facing a big challenge at the moment, they might be thinking, but I don't know a way out of this, or but even that thought of I don't know a way out of this means that you're you could be searching for one. Yes, that in itself could be a turning point. So it's all you've got to do is reach out for help or open a book or do do something, take some kind of action. So for me it was mindfulness, so it was being in the present moment in time, and that kind of really refocused and grounded me. So that's the sort of thing that I like. Is there do you think that there's any one go-to with you now? So obviously, you've worked a lot on your mind and your mindset, you've gone through your coaching certificate, you can now help others and guide people through your coaching. Are there resources that you use yourself that you consider keep yourself grounded or keep yourself with the growth mindset? Are there sort of practices that you do?
Wael:Yes. The first thing that I would do personally, whatever that you believe in God or not, or believe whatever that bow that you believe in, pray. Praying is so powerful thing. Want to start praying and connect with God because I'm a Muslim, I believe in only one God, we we call it Allah. When we when I pray every day, I we pray five times a day. There's a time when I disconnect from everything around me. We start obeying by saying Allah like this. This this sign, when you say this, which means all everything in this earth and in this in this life, but all behind you. Now you are with God only. That is the meaning of this sign that I make right now. When I make like this at the beginning of my prayer. So now you are so mindful with God only. You're taking rest and break from from your all you challenge in your life and talk with the higher above, which is God. Talk with God, speak with God and speak about everything inside you through your own brain. So bring is so bad for you. If you are brave, bring is so beautiful for you. Whatever, whatever challenge that you go through in your life, mentally or emotionally, that is the first thing that I have to say.
Fran:I was just gonna say for anybody who's only listening to this, because we have a video version of this on YouTube. But for anybody that's only listening, you've taken both your hands with your palms facing outwards and raised them near to the sides of your head. Yeah, yes, like that. That's the action.
Wael:Yeah, yeah. That's the action because we do it like this, yeah, and then do it like this and do do this, which means everything in your life is behind your back now, and everything in front of you, only God. So God is there, man. So that if you believe in God, that's that that is the biggest thing. So, what are you afraid of? God was you. If you're doing this five times a day, that's a big thing for me. I'm recharging every time, different timing. I'm recharging myself, especially my own battery, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically also. It's a movement. That's the first thing. Second thing I'm reading, I'm reading my own book, which is Quran, which is for Muslims, because that that is the word of God. We are reading it and reading every day. Uh, one thing before I go to sleep. So reading Quran, I'm speaking to with God, it's a conversation between and God, it's a beautiful thing. The third thing, I do I do meditation also. I love meditation too much every morning after praying. Meditation is so beautiful, you connect with your own self. I do like inner coaching with myself. When you when you do your own breath work, all you all your emotion is attached to its own breathing, is that right? When you are calm, when you are happy, when you are joyful, when you are angry even and anxious, whatever. When you do breath work, meditation, so meditate, breathwork practice or meditation, you start to calm yourself down. You can you know it's down also because I do some meditation, more than one step, like breath work meditation, forgiveness meditation, uh visualized meditation about my future, about my own goals. Also, meditation is so good for me, and also for people, not only for me. Another thing that tells me a lot to go through my challenge mentally and emotionally, and isn't physically exercises. We need physical exercise. If you like, go to gym, go to gym, move it.
Fran:Yeah, just get up and move.
Wael:Just move, go to the natural. Okay, you just have a walk every day, 20 minutes, for example, 15 minutes.
Fran:I walk a lot.
Wael:Oh, yeah, have a walk, walking, running, go to the gym, do whatever. Any any sport that you like, do it one, twice, three the week, whatever. Do some best. We are human beings, we're hunters. We are the the God created us not to sit in. And a BC on a computer for 25 hours. No, that is not our own nature. We the our ancestors, when you wake up every day, go to hunt. It's a physical movement. We're not sitting in our phones or laptops and sending with meetings. Not like that. That's not our own nature. So I know I'm I'm not saying judging this, but our life now is different. But at least move, man. Walking, do it some sport. That will help a lot. Okay.
Fran:I I'd just like to say as well that for anybody listening who isn't Muslim, maybe you've got a different faith. Like my base is Christian. I'm not a practicing Christian, but I was raised as Christian. Or whether it's that you resonate more with the thought of meditation or you know, praying, you can you can pray even just because it will lead you somewhere. You know, so the power of prayer can happen even if you're not sure where you where you sit with any beliefs or any religious beliefs. It's still that you will just start to talk and something may come to you. So there's absolutely no judgment from from us over anybody's faith, anybody's religion, or as coaches, we're here to listen without judgment, aren't we? And these are things that work for us because I do I I thought that I didn't pray, but I actually do. You know, I've realized now, even just sitting there and you know, thinking like, you know, oh I'm really grateful for this, and uh that's a prayer. So again, it's what it means to you. And if any of this resonates and you're interested to find out more, then by all means, you know, you can contact YL and just find out a bit more about it. There's absolutely no judgment for any of this from us, is there?
Wael:Yes, indeed. I want to thank you for clarifying this also. One last thing that I want to add to this yeah connecting with nature around you. You become you connect with that that that is an amazing thing. You know what? You can learn a lesson from natural around you, you can learn a lesson from the sun itself. You're gonna learn a lesson from the moon, then listen from the winds around you, you can learn lesson from from water, from rivers, from learn less from from the ground, you can learn from the tree. When you connect with with natural around you, you feel mentally emotionally relaxed. Okay, spend some time with with yourself, my friend, the one who listened to me. How do you know your best friend? How do you know people that who you have to spend some time with or love to spend some time with, and not and you're not spending enough time with yourself, as you mentioned before. Don't be afraid to sit with yourself. At least, at least some time, at least every day, 15 minutes, 10 minutes, start by five minutes. Yeah, sit with yourself. You can start journaling, for example. You have some anxiety, some depression thought, or whatever that you have in your mind. Some something is bothering you. If you like writing, you can uh have your own book note, start write write down your own thoughts. I I I I think like this, write it down. That is my own thought today. Or now, that's that is my own feeling, that is that's my own emotions. I need like this. Writing also or joining will help a lot in auto texty for what is going inside you as a human being, become more clear for you.
Fran:Yeah, it helps to process the information. So by sitting with yourself, that can help you to download things and just process things and then putting it down on paper, you know. What I would like to ask you now is what's next for you? Like what's coming, you know, is there anything that's coming up next, or where where are you taking your coaching next?
Wael:I just wrote a book a few a few months back. It's an e-book about depression or my dream about depression. I call it Me and Mr. Depression, and I share it in my page on Instagram and also social media. And I I believe that I will continue doing this because I I got a good feedback about the e-books that I read about depression. So I think that I'm gonna start to have another ebook about another life challenges, not only depression. I'm not I'm not sure about it yet, but I'm thinking about it. I'm starting to think about something so important for me and people around me, especially with social media and what is going on in social media now. We start to forget the importance of persons between each other as human beings physically. Everything now mostly and become in social media and visually. I start to do something which is going out in the street and talk with people in the street, and they call it street coaching. And yeah, I was talking with people in the street, and no, I have I I didn't that's not that's not my idea, but I started to, for example, writing a note, a motivational note, something like this, and writing my name on it and give it to people in the street, for example, and people start to have a conversation with me. I start to go on the street and distribute chocolate or uh or any kind of drinks, like soft drinks, and I start to talk with people, for example. I gave me the gift like this and ask one question, for example, what what is one thing that you're good for now in your life? And I started to have a conversation with people in the street, maybe one or two or three weekly. I start to feel like I'm alive again because my life only not on social media. I start to so my next step now, I want to be more in contact with people physically face to face, yeah, like making group coaching sessions, maybe in some uh some mental health center or something like this, and start to talk. I started doing this also in my workplace with my friends, so yeah. So that is maybe my my next step from now to be more outside.
Fran:So, with your actual coaching, do you do you coach online as well? Yes, okay. So that in itself can reach other countries. Is there any particular demographic that you coach? Like, do you only coach men or only coach entrepreneurs? Like, is there any particular people that you coach?
Wael:I don't have any specific area here, so whenever I share my own content in my social media, people start to DM me and reach me. And I I whatever the topic it is, I will do my best to coach people. But you can say my area, especially in life is challenges and resilience. But if you talk about life is challenges, it's a big umbrella, is that right? So people come to me with different challenges, for example, depression, anxiety, lack of self-confidence, yeah, criticism, self-talk, some romantic relationship challenges. I haven't a lot like this these days. You can know most of the topics that came to me romantic relationships. Okay, okay. So I consider it now it's it's a it's about from my own niche, but from my own umbrella, whatever your own age, but mostly, yeah, yeah. So I I'm not uh giving myself myself any limitation here, to be honest. So the one who reached me, I will do my best to coach this person. And because you know, but from my my my mission in my life, I would I love to help people to see the bright side from their own life challenges and transform it into life opportunity, and see see see see the see see the bright side there, see the order in your own chaos. Because that one day maybe it will transform you to something more stronger in your life. It's like an alchemy thing. You're doing alchemy with your own client, but mentally and emotionally, internally. Alchemy is a big word, it's a different topic, you know. But and also another thing, the other part here, I'm trying to help you to see the bright side inside you, your own gift. I can help you to see your own gift, the bright side and see you, and use this gift to work for you and craft it and use it for your own good and people around you. That is a big shift. That is my journey with my own client. I don't want you only to face your own challenges. No, find your own strengths, your own gift inside you, and how can you use it to face your own challenges and become you're gonna do your own alchemy inside yourself and own your own healing to transform, like a phoenix or something like this.
Fran:That's that's what we are as coaches, aren't we? Ultimately, we're we're a guide, you know, guiding people, they've they've got the answers within themselves, and and we're here to to to guide them to those answers. So, thank you very much for that. I'm just going to say that for anybody who actually watches this on video, I'm struggling with my eyesight today. So if you see me keep rubbing my eye, like you know, obviously, I've been a little emotional because you know, we've had a really nice conversation. You're not making me cry, I've got I've literally got an eye condition. So and it's flared up today for some horrible reason. So for anybody actually watching it as well, like I'm struggling a little bit with my eyesight. Just to make that clear. So thank you. Thank you very much, Whale, for sharing your insights and may listeners feel inspired to train their minds and to uncover meaning in every moment and start building a brighter and more resilient life today. For those of you curious in learning more about Whale and his coaching, you can find him now. Hopefully, I am pronouncing your name okay. So it's Whale Said. And you're on the Jay Shetty certification school website. So as a graduate, you've you've got a profile on the on the Jay Shetty website, haven't you? You can also find Whale on as My Coach Whale on Instagram. You're also on Facebook, TikTok. I'll have to find you on these places as well, actually, because we've connected via Instagram, haven't we? So and you're on YouTube as well, which is interesting. Yeah. So is there the type of content that you share is quite motivational? Because I've seen some of your content and you're I consider you to be a very good speaker. So for anybody looking to find some inspirational content and something motivational, just those words that just help you each day, then by all means I'll I will invite you to find well's content and give it a watch and a listen because I just find it quite inspirational myself. So thank you very much for being a guest today with me.
Wael:I want to thank so much for your your own that was a very insightful and deep conversation with you today. It's my pleasure and my honor to be with you today. I want to thank you so much for that.
Fran:Oh, thank you. So if you're interested in more content like this, just anybody listening, if you're interested in more content like this, you can visit www.melancolymentor.com, follow us for the latest updates. So that's me. And until next time, stay curious, keep igniting your creative potential, and find why out there on social media. We mentioned social media a couple of times, and you get to curate your social media so that it works for you and it can work positively for you. You know, it's not social media is a wonderful thing and it's a wonderful tool and resource. It can also be very damaging. So just be very mindful about your use of it, you know, and you can find some motivational content out there because I know that you're going to go and find Way Alan find his content, and that'll be just brighten your day. It will. So thank you very much.
Wael:Thanks much for my pleasure. Thank you. Thank you.
Fran:Thank you for joining me on the Melancholy Coaching Podcast. I'd love you to subscribe for queries or to connect, email info at melancholymentor.com. Until next time, keep igniting your creative potential.
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