Glamour, Growth & Purpose

✨ Hello, I’m Fran, Your NLP & Business Coach. In this episode I'm  interviewing Aisling Moore.

Aisling empowers women to discover their true selves and live with purpose through belief coding, NLP, visualisation, energetic healing, and meditation. 

She runs glamorous foraging and wreath-making workshops, crafting beautiful, intentional spaces where women can freely be themselves and celebrate life. 

Aisling is a healthcare assistant, has studied palliative care, and is currently pursuing end-of-life doula studies.

You can connect to Aisling in the following ways ⬇️

https://www.instagram.com/freshling.ie
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61567960738560
   

As a coach, I listen without judgment, understanding that others views may differ from my own.

#nlpcoach #nlpcoaching #creativity #inspiration #transformation

Chapters

• 0:00 Welcome And Guest Introduction
• 1:45 Ashling’s Method: Belief Coding And NLP
• 6:40 Breaking Blocks To Reach Purpose
• 11:40 Visualising The Future Self
• 16:40 From Fear To Action
• 21:30 Purpose As North Star
• 26:20 Palliative Care And Living Fully
• 33:40 Grief, Family Bonds, And Change
• 39:20 Dementia, Memory, And Music

Transcript

Fran: 0:00

Hello everyone. Welcome to the Melancholy Coaching Podcast. Join me as I interview inspiring business owners and self-improvement seekers about their experiences whilst delving into personal development, motivation and strategies for overcoming challenges. Let's ignite our creative potential together. Hello and welcome to Melancholy Coaching Podcast. I'm Fran, your NLP coach, and I'm pleased to introduce an inspiring guest. Through belief coding, NLP visualization, energetic healing, and meditation, Ashling empowers women to discover their true selves and live with purpose. She leads glamorous foraging and reef making workshops for often beautiful intentional spaces where women can really be themselves and celebrate life. Ashling is also a healthcare assistant who has studied palliative care and is currently pursuing end-of-life doula studies. Ashling, welcome to the show.

Aisling: 1:09

Hello.

Fran: 1:14

Hi, you're very welcome. The way this works is I'm a curious little being. So I'll ask you a couple of questions that I've kind of got pre-prepared, and we'll have a conversation around that if that's okay with you. That's perfect. Find out more about you and what you get up to. Okay, thank you. So first of all, can you tell us more about your you've got a very unique blend of putting stuff together? So within the visualization and the NLP, you know, so you've got a unique blend. Can you and it's a blend of techniques? So can you tell us more about that and how it works together to empower women to live with purpose?

Aisling: 1:54

Okay. The reason why I um like the see, we have these traumas from childhood, right? And you know, a lot of the the the triggers, this is this is what I discovered because I I learned about re-educating myself about six years ago, and I went to so I was working with the mind and I I didn't notice the triggers, I didn't know what was blocking me. So I was able to like I studied all this, but there was something blocking me, and I was like, what is this? So I started to study belief coding then about four years ago, and I realized that was the key to actually because I actually got to my I knew my purpose, I could see, I could visually see the purpose, but what was blocking me was the triggers, the negative beliefs. But I didn't understand that until I did belief coding because belief coding gets right into the subconscious, really clears the negative beliefs so that you can actually reach the purpose because we're all born leaders and successful, and you know, as a child, you are imaginative, you are playing all the time, you want, you just can't help dream, and the dreams start coming realistically as you as you get as you're going along in life. But what happens as you go as an adult, you become so serious, caught up in the traumas that you actually block yourself from getting to that purpose. So every time I was blocking myself, like social media, I would like, I don't like social media, but there was a block behind that. There was a block behind actually meeting a community. I started up with the meeting, getting business women together, but that originally was blocking me because I was like, I'm better on my own, but that's not true. I needed a community to build my own, so I had to unblock that belief. So each I each time I seen it, I was like, oh my God, I'm getting closer to that goal. I'm getting closer. So I want to show women if you want to reach your purpose, but what you what's what you're allowing is that blockage, that trigger to stop you from getting to that purpose. So they can associate, they can see the thoughts coming up, they can see, okay, there's a negative one coming up, and there's a positive. So let's let's work on that today. Let's get rid of that emotion. So that emotion comes up. Where is that coming from? Then you figure out the negative beliefs behind that. Then when you clear, like we go into the memory, we go do the energetic helium, we clear it, then you get to the next step. You actually start realizing, you actually start noticing. I actually can this is easy going on social media. This is so easy now. So you reach that next step, then you're challenged again with something else. You're like, oh my God, I can't do this. But then you say, No, there's a block again. So then you get clear this block, and then you get to the next step, and you just keep doing that until the you start, you take the step every day to see yourself getting to that purpose. And the reason why I do the whole purpose thing and see that dream, and I make it big, because that's the thing. We are the creators, we make things bigger and bigger, and the more you do that, the more your brain starts, it just can't help it, it just wants to get to that purpose. But the only thing that's stopping is your mind that then blockages, so that's why you you need to, it's so important to clear. That's why I do the belief coding on myself, because I I'm not stopping until I get to that purpose, you know, and that's what keeps you so alive and so like your life is incredible because you see those steps every day, and when you see those steps every day, you're like, Oh my god, this is the magic. This is what's happening. It's actually happening, but these steps could be tiny, it could be making a phone call to someone, it could be going on social media and doing some marketing, it could be networking with someone, it could just point, say, let's do, let's do this work, and it's so easy. Instead of getting in in the way every day, instead of just looking at what am I going to do? But I have the co I have the research, I've I've done the work and I'm still doing the work, and I'm not going to stop until I get to that purpose. And I want that for women as well, and they deserve that, they are worthy of their purpose.

Fran: 6:07

So, would you say that? Because I don't know a lot about belief coding. Yeah. So, would you say that blending belief coding with neurolinguistic programming and with visualization and with meditation it makes it more powerful? Or is it that it allows women to access it as such in different ways? So maybe they resonate more with the meditation side of things, and then you blend in the belief coding.

Aisling: 6:33

Yeah, so what I do is the belief coding is part of it. There's little sections in the thing, but if you're filling your mind, see, first of all, we go into the belief coding, and that's where we reach get the negative belief, right? We get that part, and then we look at what was your dream outcome, and then we look at the dream, and you're like, oh my god, because you always want, you always want something beautiful. So we look at that and then we code in the new beliefs. Because if you're dreaming the creation, you can't help saying, I am this beautiful person, I can do this, you know, because you start seeing the creation, you start seeing your future self. Do you know do you know what I mean? So like you build your mind.

Fran: 7:25

And some tools and resources that you know can help support you, but it's the steps to get there.

Aisling: 7:32

Yeah. So the re the only the only thing that's happening to most of us is that we don't believe in ourselves. We actually believe that I can't do this. But if you had this in your life where you have the belief code and where we're actually really getting so specific, what is blocking you from actually doing that? What is the what's blocking you from being on social media? What's blocking you to actually changing your relationship? What's blocking you? Just ask the question. It's always something within you, it's always deeper. And if you ask that, and then you rewire, you actually start just coding in new beliefs, then and seeing the different picture than the old picture you have in your head. We create with the senses, we use our senses, and the sense I have like a trick how to use the senses, like you start using your visualizations like awakening. I do that in my 11-11 rituals. I awaken the senses, and that's awakening the vision, awakening the hearing, the smell, taste. So if you're really living in that that life, you're really living your dream and for the future, and you use all those representational because your brain starts opening up differently then.

Fran: 8:46

Yeah, and you can really see it and feel it and smell it.

Aisling: 8:49

Yeah, you have to really live it. It's like you already have it, and it's always at the end outcome, it's always at the end of a celebration, it's end of you see that you see that the everything in that picture, and it's incredible. And it's incredible to put that together because if you like I I'm just gonna say this an example, right? I work in every area, and the reason why I do is because I it's like a research, because when I'm working in, I work in a nursing home once a week, right? And I already have a vision, that's my retreat. So already I'm in there thinking this is this is my staff, okay. I'm gonna reach out the goodness. I'm already in there, this is my future, but I use it as an opportunity instead of like, you know, like so I see the bigger picture and I see the end outcome, but I'm already playing it acts in in there. So when I'm with the older people, when I'm I'm I sing and dance as well. So I like I pretend I have a microphone. So I'm playing the game again as a child. I've I've did so much healing, I become the life, I become the expression of life. So I'm there singing in front of an audience of old older people. And guess what? When you do that, you actually are visualizing your future. And and like when I when I started singing for the first time, because I belief code that as well. I always could sing, but I could never sing in front of people. And I just started, I started singing and it just came. It just it comes like that. Once you release that belief, it just comes and it's so easy. You're like, how did that even come about? And you just it just comes because you actually did the healing, did the releasing, and what happens is you just go into this performance of expressing life. So when I did that, then I got gigs, I got other places to sing, I got talks, so many talks this year, because I was imagining I have hundreds of people already in front of me, and even though the old people, the elderly people were actually my audience, but I visioned for the future. The end I love singing.

Fran: 11:00

I think that everybody can sing. Yeah, I do too. Strong belief of mine, everybody can sing. You just gotta find the right thing that's that suits you, yeah. Or that suits your tone of voice, or you know, yeah, I I I love singing, and I love that for you as well that you've discovered that performance side and meaning. I think that we're we're held back a lot by fear, aren't we? Yes, so yeah, if fear so we're held back from fear from picking up that microphone and singing, or from going on social media, but there's often then something behind that fear, yeah. And that's it goes on a deeper level, doesn't it?

Aisling: 11:40

And that's my work is to help you actually release that fear. And like I know is when you're working with people, they don't, they're stuck and they won't actually put themselves out because of and the same as me. I was I was like that. It's just that I'm I know the process now, I can see the trigger. I can see, okay, if I say if I was taking action all day and I had a particular trigger, but I would say, okay, that I'm going to go to belief coding later on. I can set that aside and say, I'm going to take action all day today, make things work, and and then I actually release that trigger and I'll help people show them how to do it. And the and the reason why the purpose comes in, because if you're working in every area, you won't be afraid. You're not like, oh no, I have to do this now, I have to do this. But instead, you're like, I'm excited because I'm have a beautiful purpose to get to. I have an amazing purpose to get to. So I'm not going to stop. So I that's why I do everything, I work in every area because it helps. It helps, it just I know I have an amazing purpose to go to.

Fran: 12:46

So I like to think of you, I like to think of purpose as being like a like a north star, you know, it's that thing that can guide you as well. Yeah, and it often gets to be quite simple. Yeah, we think that, or generally, some people might think that it's it's a big thing, it's huge. I'll never find it. But it can be just a really simple thing, couldn't it? You know, your purpose.

Aisling: 13:11

The purpose, the thing, the reason why I do it bigger is because it gets you so excited for life. And like the thing is the key is we all have a purpose, and I can help people with the purpose through childhood. If I see any excitement now, and I know people get scared to say, okay, I'm okay, I'm happy enough with just this and that, like you know, but if they have a purpose, they have meaning in everything and they do because that helps them grow, that helps them actually. I'm excited, even like I mean, the jobs I do sometimes you'll be like, How can you do that? But I'm like, I'm excited because I know I'm getting to my purpose, but then I have the mini purposes as well. So I I have all these little mini purposes, but if you have the bigger picture, you just can't help want to get there, right?

Fran: 14:07

I I guess it, yeah. You know what I mean?

Aisling: 14:09

But I do have the mini purposes as well. I have the small ones because you need those ones for like next, like in the next couple of months or next week, things like that. And what happens is your mind gets quicker at pulling them in because you already see it happening and you know it's gonna happen. You're so certain, you're so sure it's not gonna not happen, but because you practice so much with the bigger goal, and that's where you start, and that's why and and a lot of my clients now sometimes they're like, I don't know if I want, I said, but just just imagine, just be that child again, go back there again, and then we we put pull it in by actually noticing all the great things they loved as a child, and then you see that then you make it bigger, then it's simple, it's so simple when you see the excitement in someone's face, what they're excited about in life. I love that. Thank you for sharing that, yeah.

Fran: 15:00

And about the belief coding as well, because it's uh it's not something that I know much about. Um this you mentioned working with elderly people, and another thing that I'm curious is about is that you've studied palliative care and you're studying about being an end-of-life doula. Yeah. So within that, so palliative care is kind of more of a holistic approach to end-of-life care, isn't it? Palliative care. So what do you think that has taught you about living more fully today? Your your studies, what does that lend itself to for you?

Aisling: 15:40

Like, if I was totally honest, right, I the the truth about the it actually came when my sister took my la her last breath at 33 years old. And my daughter was born a year later, and I saw the first breath and the last breath being taken, and I realized the magic of life. I realized that that last breath being out of this life, and I saw the magic, and I said, Dying is a beautiful part of life, it's a wonderful part, and we are in fear, and that's why I did the belief co and to actually release that fear that it'll understand more about the whole life cycle, about being born, living, and dying. And it doesn't matter what age it is, it doesn't matter what age, because when the time is meant to go, it's the time, and unfortunately, this is what I see because my mom died as well, but she lived a lot on medications and stuff like that, and the nursing home. So, what I seen, I don't know if I should um talk about all this stuff because I I don't because I'm watching, I'm researching, and I'm watching I I saw my the people die, and I know that sometimes they shouldn't be living as long.

Fran: 16:58

Yeah, but that's I think that's uh it's a fair observation to make, and it's one that could be potentially controversial. Yeah, I understand what you're saying. I've pre prior to retraining as a neurolinguistic programming coach, I've been a carer for over 25 years. Yeah. So I've done end-of-life care um autumn work, I've predominantly worked with elderly people throughout the whole 25 years. I've done domiciliary work and residential homes, and and I've been the only person there in the middle of the night when somebody has passed away because potentially they've they've got nobody else, there's no family, there's no other living relatives, and they've spent the last couple of years more in a state where they're not that aware. So I don't know, I think it opens up a big can of worms, doesn't it? About politics.

Aisling: 17:52

I'm like, I'm just sussing it out and I'm educating myself in that sense because I see the beauty of dying as well, just as much as being born. That's the truth. Like so, dying for me isn't scary. I know, I know that I'm not scared of it, but I know that when the time comes, fear does come into a factor, curiosity, all the emotions they come in through the dying part and through the born being born because I've seen it's like different portals, different doors opening. It's like it's just like the magic of do you know what I'm saying? The dying and the the birth. Of course, it's going to be scary, but I love to live when I'm living truly to live in a life where I'm living very freely every day. I don't like I noticed that when COVID came, all that stuff, people are in fear, their fear of dying all the time. But life shouldn't be like that. It it should be like, you know, the fawn, the deers. When they're when I'm just saying animal, they live completely, but when there is fear, they have right to have that fear. You know, when they all tense up because there's threat, there's a threat coming, and yes, they go into that emotion. That's exactly what we should be doing when we're on the way to dying. That that like curiosity, but if we're living every day in those fears, we're not living life at all, and that's why I can I put belief coding in because I want to show, and that's why I work with the earth. I see the land and I see the cycle of life. It's such a natural process, and this is, I believe, that this is what humans need to do is live, live life every day and clear out those blockages, clear them out so you can actually understand the being born, living every day, and dying. These are beautiful parts of life, and that's that's why I'm doing the end of life is this the celebration. When someone comes in to the last part, I want to celebrate with them and celebrate with the families. Everything is a beautiful part of who we are. That that is what I believe in, and I'm speaking it out loud now, but that's my truth. That is that's why I wanted to believe Coden so I can help them vibrate into a beautiful energy every day. They live a beautiful life and see, and then when they're working with the earth, you can see that that beautiful creation, how we are like, and I do mindfulness with the old people as well. And I bring my flower because I I love my garden, and I bring all my flowers, and I say, Well, look, guys, we're a seed, and then we're this beautiful flower expressing life. But unfortunately, humans forget to express that part of life, they forget to be that beautiful princess, they forget to be that beauty and the love and the expression, singing and dancing and jumping around with excitement of life, and then we die, and then one day old people said to me, So you mean to say we're gonna rot into the ground? I said, Yes, exactly. You're the beautiful soil of the earth, and you just build for the next generation. It's so simple, and that's why I want to that's why I do that belief God, is because because they deserve to live a truly beautiful life. Everyone does, and that I would I would I just want everyone to join me because it's a beautiful life when you express life in a beautiful way every day. It's a beautiful, it's a beautiful, even the sad like sadness comes, or they're all part of it, but it's beautiful, it's it's a wonderful part of life, but you're not afraid of it.

Fran: 21:33

Well, it's feel it's feeling all the things, isn't it?

Aisling: 21:35

Yeah, yeah, and there's no afraid, you're just sitting with sadness sometimes. You're just like, okay, I'm sad, I'm okay with that, you know.

Fran: 21:42

But you have to feel safe enough to sit with those kinds of emotions. Yes, yeah. So with building up, you know, your resources or your toolkit or whatever you want to call it, you can you can have that safe space to sit with these feelings and sit with these emotions, and maybe even you'd need to work on identifying them, yeah. Because sometimes you can feel very potentially sad, but it's not actually sadness that you're feeling.

Aisling: 22:05

Yeah, and that's what belief coding helps with that as well. Because even when I have my clients in my groups, I say, guys, I want you to because like you can you can like every day the results come in, it's just you can't see them and take action because you're already in your head thinking of the problem. When there isn't actually it's just that we create this problem in our heads, but you can, and so I I train eyes there, like guys, come on, let's see the result, just a baby step. If you see that, then you're able to actually differentiate and actually choose which one you want to choose, and you can choose that state, you can choose that, yeah, and then you can say, Do you know I'm gonna do belief coding with Ashton and she will help me clear that, and then I don't have to worry about that anymore, and then I can just have a great day today, do you know?

Fran: 22:52

So, what's next for you?

Aisling: 22:54

What's next? I I'm excited because I have lots of great stuff happening. I have two Love Yourself Back to Life programs now. I have the 1111 that opens up your superpowers. It's called 1111 Reset Um Rituals. It's at 7 a.m. in the morning. I do recordings, I have my own private group as well on Facebook, and I do I have loads of creation, so we open our minds to creation, so like foraging and doing the read making, and I am the leader for Nord Caldare in to get business women together to grow as a community, and that's what we need together. And I next year I have loads of plans. I'm hoping to actually, I don't know if I want to say that yet, but uh no, I'm hoping I'm I'm just I'm saying it out, I'm not certain yet. No, I should be certain because I really want this. I want to go to India or somewhere to do the end of life once I finish the course. I want to go there for a couple of months and just live it in there and just see. So when that was going to be a question of mine, actually.

Fran: 23:58

Oh, yeah. You're studying to be an end-of-life douler. So when do your studies complete as such?

Aisling: 24:04

It's on my terms. I I will hopefully a couple of months because I want to get I'll get the cert, and I have a cert for the palette of care, but I want to I want to educate myself in all areas because I don't believe, I don't think anything's wrong or right. I believe every creation is an incredible idea, and whatever happens in between, it's not my issue. I just work out what I need, and that's it.

Fran: 24:32

So I'm then that's the thing with us having beliefs, isn't it? You know, that they're not necessarily for everybody. And I choose to be a non-judgmental being. I know that I am, I know that I am a judgmental being. I am I'm capable of all the things, whether they're negative or positive, but I choose not to be, you know, I choose not to be because I love listening to people and I love listening to things that they want to create or the ideas that they have. And if you're coming from the point of judgment, you you can't hear as well, and you can't feel as well.

Aisling: 25:08

Well, you limit yourself completely.

Fran: 25:10

Yeah. And there is no right or wrong either. So this this isn't necessarily going to be for for everybody. No. I mean, as I say, I've I've done end of life care, I've I've felt the fears and you know the emotions, and some of it has been really painful, like it's been a really painful process. So anything that could ease that make it more gentle or more accepted, or you know, I I think I'd welcome it. Um, what's next for you is to complete your studies. Yeah, do your studies. I think you've got a very holistic approach to life, haven't you?

Aisling: 25:51

Yeah, I do. I just I am very natural. I make my own products. I love dressing up. I'm really, but I am very holistic in that sense. I do everything very naturally. Like even with my house, I make everything from nature. I love my garden. I'm out there all the time, I'm always in nature. I am more holistic and I never go to the doctors. I never, I just believe I have the healing power to do it myself, but that's not for everyone. But I just have that such strong belief, and if anything happens, I won't know, but I'll just go with it and see what happens, you know. I do I just live, I just try and live as much as I can with with nature and that higher power and the energy from that.

Fran: 26:34

Do you think I'm gonna ask you a personal question now? Do you think that some of this has come about for yourself due to the loss of your sister? Or were you already on this path?

Aisling: 26:50

I definitely am, I was very spiritual when I was young, very free, but I was shut down, I was bet up, I was, you know, I was told you you know, you're told or stupid you're ticking all this. And and then I kind of I went through a really dark period of my life when I was probably about 16 to 19, and it was so dark. And my sisters tried to save me, but I wouldn't allow them. I my spirit was so strong that I knew I had to go through this darkness and I had to go through it alone. I couldn't get anyone to save me because if I got someone to save me, I wouldn't be the person I am today. And that's when I I saw the light, I saw something magical when I when I awoken from that darkness, but I had to go through the darkness to see that light. And when my sister then was because that was I was going through the process of that whole thing, but I was starting to so it's probably kind of started from that dark period to the the light scene, that awakening, and then when my sister was dying, she was dying for a couple of years, I was grieving as well, a lot of grief then. But and then I I was getting into the hill, I was trying to get her to go to India. Why don't you just go and do these things and you know live life now? You know, so it started kind of probably from there, yeah. It probably started that was one of the things, and when I saw that last breath, I saw the magic of a lot of things, and that that last breath actually brings me to the story. Like, okay, yeah, it's it's an important thing.

Fran: 28:22

I'm not sure. Someone did you go over there. I think I think I it's an important thing that you raised as well, is that quite often we can grieve for the living while they're still alive, with yeah, we're grieving, yeah. Um, and that takes a lot of processing, yeah.

Aisling: 28:40

So because she was three years, yeah, dying. And I think I did my grieving then, and then there was a lot of change in our relationships. It it changed so much while we were going through that grieving because like it even changed our she actually when I was a kid, she was my mom because we had 12 in our family, she was my mom. She I know my other mom gave birth to me, but my mom would always my real mom always gave out to me. But my sister was my savior, she was the one that actually grounded me, like she showed me a lot of love, and but our relationship started changing because she realized she had to separate that. So we and I was angry at first, I was very angry. I was like, I want to, I want to, and I wanted not talk to her, but we actually there was a big shift that we were actually changing as humans in into a different form, but it was healthier, it wasn't toxic anymore. It was because I was kind of that like she was my mom, do you know what I mean? And she wanted to separate. No, we're we're both the same. Do you know that kind of way? And it was and it was amazing because towards the end we we became more united, like even though I thought we were, but it was different because I was like the child, you know that kind of way. Yeah, I I don't know how to explain that one.

Fran: 30:00

But like potentially potentially relationship was doing that because she felt that that was the right thing to do and just took up those emotional strings kind of thing. Yeah. And it wasn't necessarily what was going to be right for you.

Aisling: 30:15

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But I I about the end of the thing when she before she died, we had this specific close, it was more of a it was actually more of a really bond. It was an understanding kind of thing. I don't know how to do it.

Fran: 30:32

Do you think that the doula work, the end-of-life doula work lends itself? I don't know if better's the right word, but it lends itself more to people that potentially know that they're dying, like they have an awareness that it's and they've got a potential timeline for that, or whether somebody's not not aware because they're more in a uh vegetative state, would it would it stop?

Aisling: 31:01

I I I think I don't I think it's all the same. I mean, I work dementia and I work. Do you know what I mean? And I believe, well, I'm not 100% sure if I'm right, but I'm just saying I really believe they know there's a knowing in a sense. But even if dementia dementia is only a word, it's not because when I'm singing and dancing, they come into a state of spirit and and we become one. So I I know that that that the dementia is a name they're given, you know, as but like when their spirit comes, it's it's all the same, we're all one, it's nothing different, and they know they all know. Like I I I believe that, but I'm because I'm I I work and I live with them, I not live with them, but I see them and they but then when I'm doing the singing and dancing, they become me.

Fran: 31:51

Do you know what's saying about living with uh elderly people? That's done in other countries. I've read studies on this, yeah, in where they've they've had younger people or students actually living in like residential or or nursing homes with elderly people, and it's a really beautiful, yeah, kind of mix.

Aisling: 32:10

Yeah, it is actually like I I just think they're amazing. I really, I really I love them so much. Like, and I love it, doesn't matter what state they're in, I believe that they're they're just they're beautiful no matter what, like, do you know? Yeah, um, and I see that they they they understand they they get it, like even though they have their own little things, what they do, but everyone has that. Like, even now we're all different, and that's a uniqueness in our sense, you know.

Fran: 32:38

You know, the way we are, like, and it's a lot of it kind of revolves around our brains, doesn't it? Because there's you know, there's studies to support the fact that our brains get lighter as we get older, so potentially they shrink, and it's to do with where memories are stored or where different things in the brain are stored, and that's why dementia has a name kind of thing, it's why it's given that label, and it's quite often why the the memories are there of childhood and they're not there of something more in the moment.

Aisling: 33:09

Yeah, because um when I'm doing the mindfulness with them, with I always do with my flowers and that, like, and but they have brilliant memories of the childhood. Oh my god, my dad never went to the doctors, we always went foraging and did like so they're having these topics, they're actually really excited about having these conversations because they remember again, do you know, back then, do you know that kind of way? So, like the conversations are opening up, like you know, and it's and it's really good, like you know, but um they're be they're they're wonderful.

Fran: 33:37

I must say I love working with the elderly because we we can our brains can grow new neural pathways, yeah, yeah. So and I do believe that even with conditions like dementia, where you know the the brain kind of shrinks as such, and the the you know, some of the short-term memory goes because of where it's stored in the brain, I still think that there are neural pathways to to reach memories that are there, and that you can be built upon, yeah.

Aisling: 34:06

You know, that's yeah, because like if you open them up to like that when I do that mind, but I know I'm just saying from my work because obviously I can see the difference because they're having different conversations, like you know. I mean, I I'd never seen that, and I wanted well, actually, this was actually I just remember now. I remember going to her room and she said, You're they're starting to remember me because I'm I I'm like I speak from the spirit a lot of times, right? But they like they came in and hold my hand and cried tears and saying, I remember you're the girl that did that talk, you're the one that did that. Was three weeks ago, yeah. So, like they still remember they've built the pathway into yeah, and they actually remember me as the singer now, even though they have dementia, but they know that that's her. She's it's about it's making the connections, isn't it?

Fran: 34:59

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, it's it's fascinating. Um yeah, so I do neurolinguistic programming as well, so a lot of this lends itself possibly to neuroscience and stuff like that, which I haven't studied, but I do find it fascinating. I find brains fascinating, um, and it's also why I went into care work because I predominantly we have a lot in common, yeah. I predominantly worked with elderly people because I just found them so fascinating. I loved all the stories, there's some wonderful stories, and I think we're human beings are stories, yeah. You know, we started the stories, and that's what is we started by passing on stories like orally, and you know, and it's we are stories, yeah, yeah. And when when we're gone, the stories remain.

Aisling: 35:41

Yeah, and that's why I say, guys, let's make our stories even better because we can create in the future and let's make them magical, and that's what can happen. And I've I've I know for myself, too, myself, and then I see my clients, I'm like, yes, let's make this happen because we can, we are the creators, and like we know the old people, it is great because they actually let go as well. That's they're like they're letting go of everything. Like, I mean, we hold on so much to attachments, but they just they're totally stripped from everything. And you sometimes are sad about that because you're thinking, Oh god, I would hate that. But actually, it's a real cleanse, it's a cleanse of the whole of who we really are. It's a cleanse of actually we're not attached to anything, not even this body, you know. And that's what I see when I see them, they're cleansing completely, and it's it's hard to see because you get triggered because you think, oh my god, this is us in in whatever time, because that's what's exactly happening when you get older, you cleanse from everything.

Fran: 36:44

Well, I I think that potentially that could happen at any age. Yeah, that can just it's just more prevalent in the world. And it happened to my sister as well.

Aisling: 36:52

You cleanse because you have when that stage happens of dying, that's what actually happens, is you actually are detaching from everything, you're detaching from your body, you're from detaching, you're you become the spirit, you become that soul, then that energy, and that's the end. That's not there's nothing else. And that and I believe that energy lives on to the next step because the energy doesn't die, and I'm always happy seeing them because when they're when some of them times I see when they're gonna go, um not that I see the last breath because I wouldn't I wouldn't do that to families, they need to, you know, that's their job, you know, to be there. But but when I go in, I send the light and all that, and I can see I just say everything's gonna be fine, it's gonna be wonderful. It's like you're gonna see the most beautiful, like because I know that they will because I've seen it through my sister, the love and the joy I could see it in her face, and I know it for them as well. They're gonna that's the first thing they're gonna meet is that no judgment, they're just gonna meet that beautiful love that they always wanted to meet, and it's I I just believe that I really believe that, and so I'm just happy for them then, you know, because I know they're gonna see something magical, something so beautiful that we can't even explain.

Fran: 38:10

I actually I'm gonna move this along in a moment, yeah. You know, actually many, many years ago I actually had a near-death experience, and it's something that I often think about because it felt really lovely, like it actually felt lovely. I felt calm and shiny, and you know, all the magical things, like I actually felt that. Yeah, it's it's true. Yeah, so this this was yeah, many years ago. There's a big story with that. Maybe I'll I'll tell that one sometime. And I could hear people because they had the crash cart and because I was in hospital, I coded in hospital, and and I could hear them like calling my name, but they were probably all frantically yelling and shouting, and I heard it like it was like like Frances, like it was like a song, you know. And I often get called Fran, but my actual for name is Frances. So they would have been calling me Fran because that's how I present myself all the time. But I heard it is my full name, but it was like it was being sung, you know, like in a magical way, like it was just it just felt really beautiful. So I think I just I just floated off somewhere, I'm not not too sure really, but yeah, it was it was uh it was something that felt really lovely. So if it's anything like that, then you know it should be celebrated, yeah.

Aisling: 39:35

Um yeah, no, it yeah, I think it's a miracle anyway. Like I believe that I've seen it, I I've seen it and I've that I took action this year in something, and I knew that I'm on the right path, like because something magical did happen this year, it was so powerful, yeah. And I know it's true, like and I know it's gonna happen. And I know anyone that I will work with, it will be very magical for them.

Fran: 39:59

Yeah, yeah, yeah. And that's and that's the thing. So whatever anybody believes you're you're entitled to believes, your beliefs can change as well.

Aisling: 40:06

Yeah, I'm a very open person, that's the thing with me. Like change all because I love learning, and every day I can't stop.

Fran: 40:13

You can change, you can change. And there's no right or wrong to any of this, it just is.

Aisling: 40:19

Yeah, that's the truth.

Fran: 40:21

So thank you for sharing part of your journey with us. Um I'm sure that listeners of this will have valuable takeaways and potentially a lot of questions from this episode. So, for those of you curious to learn more about Ashling, you can find her on Instagram, and you're currently on Instagram as freshling.ie, and that's f-es-h l-n-g.ie. Potentially that may change, but your name's searchable as well. Um, on on Facebook it's Ashling Moore, and that's actually spelt not Harris, not phonetically. So your name is uh spelt like A-I-S-M-L. That's A-I-S-L-I-N-G, right? Yeah. And the surname is Moore. So for anybody who's curious to learn more about all this shiny stuff, then by all means find Ashling Moore on social media. And if you're interested in more content like this, be sure to visit www.melancolymentor.com and follow us for the latest updates. So that's me. And until next time, stay curious, keep igniting your creative potential, and go and find Ashling. Thank you. So is there any like curiosity peak from this or questions or you want to know more? You know, I hope that it's piqued a lot of curiosity for people. Um, not only the belief coding, but the just the whole kind of magical blend of experience that you can offer to the world.

Aisling: 42:02

Yeah. But thank you so much. Thank you so much. And thank you. Bye. Bye.

Fran: 42:10

Thank you for joining me on the Melancholy Coaching Podcast. I'd love you to subscribe for queries or to connect, email info at melancholymentor.com. Until next time, keep igniting your creative potential.